3 career conversations you’re losing
and why they're important.
you're at a wedding.
someone's uncle corners you near the paneer station. "so what do you do?" your mind blanks. you mumble something about being in tech. managing products. working at a startup. his eyes glaze over. you both reach for more paneer.
later that week, recruiter call.
"tell me about yourself." you launch into your rehearsed spiral. five companies, seven achievements, three frameworks you've mastered. fifteen minutes later, they're asking if you know anyone else who might be interested in the role.
friday drinks with your team.
new engineer joins the table. "heard you're the product person who actually ships." you smile, but inside you're wondering: is that my reputation? the person who ships? nothing about strategy, vision, impact?
three different conversations.
three different failures. same root problem.
why does this happen?
your positioning can't survive contact with reality.
the positioning delusion
here's what most people think
positioning is a polished elevator pitch. a linkedin headline. a personal brand. some combination of job title plus years of experience plus company names.
wrong.
positioning is what happens in other people's heads when you're not in the room.
and right now it’s?
"experienced product manager" "growth marketer with 5 years" "engineering lead at series b startup"
these aren't positions.
they're job descriptions. and job descriptions don't get forwarded. they don't create opportunities. they don't open doors.
the three tests youmust pass
stranger test (10 secs)
recruiter test (30 secs)
peer test (2 mins)
stranger test
(10 seconds)
the stranger test asks if you can create a hook. a stranger has no context. they offer ten seconds of attention.
can you get their interest in that time? no jargon. no acronyms. just a clear compelling statement of what you do.
if it's "works in product" or "does marketing stuff," you've failed. strangers need a hook. something that sticks. something worth repeating at another dinner.
the recruiter test
(30 seconds)
recruiter's on their seventh (maybe 17th) call today. they're scanning linkedin while you talk. spotify playing in the background. you have thirty seconds before they mentally categorize you as "another product manager" or "interesting, let me actually listen."
the recruiter test measures relevance.
a recruiter scans for keywords and qualifications. they spend 30 seconds deciding if you match their search. they don't care about your journey. your passion for problem solving. (exceptions to this only apply for leadership hiring)
your story must scream
"i am the solution to the problem you have right now."
your thirty seconds needs:
what expensive problem you've solved for whom (company context) with what measurable outcome that maps to their open role
it’s all about relevancy.
miss any element, you're in the reject pile. if a recruiter cannot connect your past to their future, you fail.
the peer test
(2 minutes)
the peer test judges reputation.
a peer, a potential future colleague, looks for depth. they want to see how you think. they test your credibility through your portfolio, your writing, your code. they are looking for a collaborator, not just a hire. they ask "would i learn from this person?"
two minutes.
specific expertise. concrete proof.
the structure that actually works
did you think i’d write
this article without giving you a structure?
alright, pay attention.
every positioning statement needs four elements
1/ the warmup
2/ the hook
3/ the meat
4/ the intrigue
.
1/ the warmup
first five seconds matter more
than the next twenty five.
most people launch straight into their achievements. wrong. you need to show you've done homework. mention their recent funding round. that product launch you saw on linkedin. the blog post their cto wrote about scaling challenges.
"saw your series b announcement. congrats on tiger global. must be intense scaling from 50 to 200 engineers this year."
or “i loved the recent post you had on twitter/linkedin”
or “just a simple, i loved the new launch you folks did last month.”
now they're listening.
you're not candidate #47 today.
you're someone who has done their homework.
can i tell you a crazy fact?
i’ve done probably 1,000+ interviews in the last 12 years. maybe… 50 did their homework.
the truth is that the market
is not that bad. most people are
just lazy. don’t be most people.
2/ the hook
energy plus simplicity.
not "i'm a product manager with extensive experience in..." that's resume language.
instead,
"in my last company i grew organic traffic by 8x that completely restructured our revenue from outbout to inbound" (this is me in 2016)
simple & visual.
just make them lean forward.
3/ the meat
this is where 99% fail.
they list projects that sound sexy. but guess what? they just participated in them. they were the committees. initiatives they "contributed to."
as a hiring manager,
i see through this immediately. we all do. you can maybe fool the recruiter with keywords but a hiring manager will see through that bullshit clearer than apple’s new glass ui. and btw? after that no matter WHAT you tell me, i’ve lost trust.
pick one project
where you drove the outcome.
not participated.
not contributed.
but had a massive impact.
structure it:
"at swiggy, delivery partners were canceling 34% of orders after accepting. everyone blamed incentives. i spent a week doing deliveries myself. realized the real issue: our app didn't show building entrance photos. partners were circling apartments for 15 minutes, missing their next pickup window. built entrance photo capture into order flow. cancellations dropped to 12%. saved 2.8 crores monthly in refunds."
notice what this includes:
specific problem with numbers.
personal involvement.
non obvious insight.
what you built.
business impact.
fin.
and here's the key:
align it to their company’s problem as much as possible. yesterday's research should tell you exactly which problem to highlight.
4/ the intrigue
most people end with
"happy to answer any questions."
that's an ending,
not an intrigue.
instead, plant a seed:
"the solution worked so well, uber eats tried to poach three of our engineers to rebuild it. happy to share what we learned in the process."
OR
"funny thing is, the biggest resistance came from our own customer success team. learned a lot about internal change management."
OR
"the approach we used is actually applicable to your current expansion into indonesia. noticed similar user behavior patterns in your app reviews."
leave them wanting more.
make the next conversation inevitable.
none of this is easy.
it takes effort. clarity. consistency.
i never said it would be easy.
but it is possible. the path exists.
the real question is:
are you ready to be seen?
fully. completely.
at your best.
putting it all together
1/ warmup:
shows you know their business.
2/ hook:
energy plus simplicity.
3/ meat:
specific problem, personal involvement, clear outcome.
4/ intrigue:
an angle they'll definitely want to hear about.
1 hour assignment for you
tonight, record yourself doing all three versions.
not write.
record. video or audio.
why record?
because positioning lives in conversation, not documents.
you'll hear immediately
where you lose energy.
where you use corporate speak.
where you sound like everyone else.
record your 2 minute peer version first. tell your full story. then cut it down to 30 seconds for recruiters. finally, distill to 10 seconds for strangers.
test each one on real humans
do it within the next 2 days.
if they don't ask follow up
questions, you've failed.
iterate until they lean forward.
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hiring is sales
hiring is a sales game.
and sales isn't about impressing people with your past. it's about being useful for their future.
start testing every conversation.
coffee chats. conference small talk. investor intros. track which phrases get repeated. which stories get forwarded. which problems made people say "wait, tell me more."
how you know it's working
your positioning works when strangers repeat your hook without prompting. when recruiters call you for roles you didn't apply to. when peers pull you into problems before they become projects.
until then?
you're just another
"experienced professional"
hoping your resume gets read.
so tonight, ask yourself:
when i'm not in the room, what story survives?
because that story,
not your resume,
is your career.
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